Keep on Guessing

Too much guess work of late, figures that I am typically those type of people who should be kept pre-occupied at all times; if not, you can hear the brain whirring -- those wires might got em'self tangle-up sometime pretty soon, I reckon'. 
Does second chances came by often? 
No, they don't; yet, why the appreciation rate is still so low? Or was it due to slow reflexes? It took me long enough (not to mention much thoughts and efforts) to actually make the initial approach, and why aren't you making any moves? Stop contemplating by yourself and got drown by your own thoughts; talk to me and perhaps we can tackle this together. At times, you gotta have faith in wisdom of the crowds. As they say, two minds are better than one.

Buff-up your sexual skills to reduce household violence, says OWC

Sexual lessons to tame your hubby, keep em' happy and don't visit prostitutes; anyone?

This is the solution to domestic violence, as suggested by the Obedient Wives Club.

[For more info, click here and here.]

Back then, when I'm still doing my secondary education; we've been asked to write Fakta (factual) essays, in which one of the most common topic is -- domestic violence. In the long list of facts we put into our karangans as to what causes household violence, the general ideas would include irresponsible parenting, unemployment, work stress, financial burden, business failure, loose familial bonding ...etc; somehow, I don't recall "unsatisfactory sex" is in the list.

According to OWC, domestic violence could have been avoided if the wives listen to their husbands and provide them with satisfying sex; thus, the men would not have to seek out prostitutes... as suggested by the club's spokesperson, "Wives should welcome them(their husbands) with sexy clothes and alluring smiles when in the privacy of their homes."

And so, domestic violence and social vices can be curbed with sexy lingeries, alluring smiles and good bedroom techniques? I have never thought that such long-standing social problems can be curbed so easily, somewhat with few extra sex lessons then drunk-and-unemployed husbands will not beat the shit out of their children - just get the wife to shed  few pieces of clothing, seduce the husband and work em' out of it eh? 

Wives should listen to their husbands, aside from supplying them with satisfactory sex. What if the husband suggests that swapping sexual partners with his friend or relatives for better sexual experience? And he promised that if you listen to him, he would not abuse the kids or to indulge in prostitution. Any suggestions or advice?

Domestic violence and other social ills are caused by a wide range of causes; high unemployment rate perhaps? Psychological and health problems maybe? Bad vices such as alcohol addiction and getting drunk all the time, miserable childhood experience and trauma and many more... to think that with sexual lessons and counselling sessions to get wives to pleasure and satisfy their husbands would be able to solve the problem is a very simple and outrageously stupid thought indeed.

Women, in any case - should be independent and learn how to protect themselves and their kids from domestic violence. Women can be obedient to their husbands, be the good mother and the good cook, at the same time, women should also know the importance of being wise and having wisdom - but not a puppet. Talking bout women rights and protection of the female community, ha!

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Indeed, it has spiralled into some kind of international joke. Check below for list of foreign media featuring the news:-

• Huffington Post
• Washington Post
• Times of India
• France 24
• Yahoo! News S'pore
• The China Post
• The Seattle Times
• Temasek Review
• Miami Herald
• Las Vegas Sun
• New Zealand Herald
• The Independent, UK
• Sign On San Diego

...etc. Purr-lease, stop blaming the women for unsatisfactory sex or not having tip-top bedroom skills that directly causes social ills and domestic violence. Get your facts right people! 

Bah.

And so I considered myself breezing through the heavy selection rounds;
but at the end of the day, 
Jaded -- is the word.
So much for promises and sweet talks;
Should the initial offer stays, then a reconsideration is in order.


For the rest, however;
I hoped for the best,
and I hoped my efforts paid-off :']

Wise conversation

A Lemon told me that, indeed, recent events has stirred changes in me. 

Unfortunately, its a negative one.. 

Like most of my friends, he thought that - somehow, the old bubbly-cheerful-vibrant V-vian is lost. My sunny demeanour dimmed, I became more emotional and most importantly, all my writings/ scriptings/ jottings reflected sadness and misery. All along, I used to be the heart and soul of gatherings; spurring laughters, telling jokes, entertaining others with my sarcastic-ism (occasionally, poking "harmless" fun at poor souls who somehow unwisely crossed my path~ bahhahaha XD)... Where has "V-vian" gone to? I don't show-up at gatherings, nor do I mix and mingle like I used to. Because of a romance that is going down the hill, I have been a miserable kid that isolates herself from the laughter and happiness. What has become of me?

Thank goodness that I managed to regain myself from "the fall". It is true that, after acceptance - then comes the healing and recovery. (Sounds familiar eh? Yep, if I remembered correctly, Prof. Dumbledore said similar lines in the HP series.) I wouldn't have said that at the present, I am fully recovered - cos, I know I am not. At least, with acceptance - my wounds are healing, and I felt rejuvenated! Again, I am indeed grateful to friends and peers that shown me much love that speeds up my recovery process. 

Am proud to announce that : I am on the right track to regain the former me. Bubbly, cheerful, full with vigour.

p/s: Thanks Lemon. I enjoyed immensely the wise conversation that we had, for it kindled lost vigour and re-affirm lost faith and courage!

实现小愿望

终于到一直以来想去的公园逛了一圈
心情是如此的高昂

清晨的阳光是舒服的
晒得我暖洋洋 有种感觉叫幸福
凉凉吹来的微风 有种感觉叫舒畅

我过得很好
没有你 我也不孤单
















记得
以前你曾答应陪我一起走
如今
只剩我自己也没关系
前方的路很长很长
没有你，
我也可以走很远很远

 看见早晨以及未来的那道曙光
仿佛提醒着自己
接下来即将展开的舞台
我的表演将是闪亮的、华丽的

谢谢陪我逛逛，陪我当秋千的他；

实现了这个小愿望

我真的很开心 :'D

注意：寻人启示

需要的是一双温暖的大手
可以牵我一起走

需要的是一个可靠的胸膛
跟我分享小坚强

需要的是一个安全的臂弯
躲风雨的避风港

需要的是一个灿烂的微笑
年轻的冲劲不会变老

需要的是一个长久的诗歌
我们一起填词作曲

最不需要的是
一个三分钟热度的爱情

喘

寂静的夜里
拖着一身疲惫
徘徊崩溃边缘
哭了

四面八方的压力
你们懂多少？
需要的是一点
温馨的安慰
热情的鼓励
而不是更多的
指责·压力·矛盾

一直活在你们的期望中
你们的期望越高
就必须逼迫自己
满足你们的期待
回应你们所想要的

我的艰辛与坚持
需要代价的
前方的未知
存有着猜测与恐慌

以后的路
我会为自己负责
既然你们不能给与我
那么一点的鼓励而不是变相施压
那，
我也不想奢望些什么

只有自己，是最可靠的

Watch-out for that Bottom Line

Is getting totally stressed up (and freaked out too!) by a friend as time goes by. 

Do watch out for words that come out from your mouth, please poke some common sense into the words that you utter. Don't be so immature and childish, we're adults and university-educated. Why provoke wars that break bonds and ties here and there? 

Was it just for attention-seeking purpose? 

Or was it your idea of having fun or a way of establishing personal loyalty? 

When 100 people ran away from you; it is time to take into consideration that the problem does not lies within the 100 person, but yourself. There is an obvious urgency to rectify your mistakes or to change your attitude. I have tried my best to fill-in my duties as a good friend, so please watch out for that bottom line of mine and do not push me overboard. Think twice (or thrice) before you utter any more stupid and pointless words that eventually drives everyone away. Put a halt to those lies and stop your yarn-spinning, its really driving everyone mad. 

Please, grow up and get a life.

We (your friends) are not nannies, it is not our task nor responsibility to look after you like kids running wild during playtime. We are not getting paid or rewarded for dousing out fires that you ignited here, there everywhere. Please take charge of yourself and stop freaking us out.